Fear and Loathing and Systemic Frigidity
Why is women's pleasure stigmatized and deprioritized?Why are weddings considered the most important milestone in a woman's life?
I recently wrote a piece called Wham, Bam, Thank You Ma'am which posits that heternormative culture is rooted in post-war trauma making people feel they need children while still feeling too traumatized to really want to make love, so the culture treats sex as a perfunctory means to reproduce and actively discourages people to deal with feelings at all and actively vilifies enjoying life too much.
It was a follow-up piece to me talking about how Heternormative Culture Promotes Subsistence Culture. One of those two pieces links to a piece called Paternity which says in part:
I have a homozygous recessive genetic disorder...This fact has strongly influenced my assessment of human sexual morality and historical social practices. It makes me see valid concerns where other people seem to only see misogyny and sexism.
Most people on planet Earth seem to be terrified that if people generally, but especially women, actually enjoy sex, it will destroy society. And I cannot in good faith argue they are entirely wrong because it probably would destroy society as we know it.
It's the end of the world as we know it
As for weddings, because women make most of their income via marriage, whom they marry largely determines their quality of life and standard of living. It's a cross between getting your dream job and winning the lottery to marry the right guy.
In contrast, most men are judged by their career and wives can come and go and most wives are largely interchangeable because they typically all provide sex and do the women's work but rarely significantly impact his career success -- though there are exceptions -- which does benefit from having a live-in servant -- AKA wife -- but pretty much any servant will do in many cases.