Intro

The title of this blog has three meanings.

1. Being feminine while having character works. You can do both.
2. It's a work space for me to sort out how exactly to do that since the world seems to think it's not possible and tends to provide few good examples, both IRL and in literature.
3. It's a space to examine characters, both IRL and in literature, and use that as a lens for exploring how to be both feminine and have character.

It's a space for a former homemaker to try to talk about her thoughts related to trying to establish a career and there is an ongoing theme that women get raised to have private lives and men get raised to have public lives and much of what we think about gender roles is about that psychological and social divide.

See Public, Private, Male, Female for a longer explanation of that concept.

2 July 2026