In recent weeks, I saw some incredibly offensive skit on The Daily Show ragging on a couple with a substantial age difference. I don't want to link to it because I have no desire to spread that filth.
You need mental bleach after hearing something like that. We have enough problems without me promoting that garbage.
I don't even remember who the couple was and can't readily identify them via search. My recollection is she was 27 and he's in his seventies.
I always said marriage should be a fifty-fifty proposition. He should be at least fifty years old, and have at least fifty-million dollars.
I know why that gets dragged. It gets dragged because the assumption is it's an extremely thinly veiled polite form of prostitution and a gal that age could ONLY possibly be interested in a man that age for ONE reason: His money.
Let's start with this: I'm for the decriminalization of prostitution and if he wants to buy her company and she's willing to sell it to him, why the hell do YOU object?
Jealous?
Being jealous of a beautiful woman is not going to make you more beautiful.
In addition to being for the decriminalization of prostitution, I'm keenly aware that MOST heterosexual relationships are a situation where HE makes the lion's share of the money.
This tends to be true regardless of their ages or socioeconomic status, so ragging on couples OBVIOUSLY doing that because of the age difference is pretending we don't know that's actually the majority of marriages as if people are in denial and pretending their paycheck isn't a primary reason their gal is with them, no. Somehow that's different.
But men aren't just looking for sex. Even in the most obvious "dumb bimbo," men are looking for someone to take care of them.
So men frequently value attributes in women they aren't personally invested in knowing anything about. Men tend to assume she will do the women's work and rest assured most couples are not doing emotional bonding followed by hot sex based on deep and meaningful conversations about her floor cleaning techniques or cooking even though her cooking is frequently a major "selling point" so to speak.
The only place men want depth in a woman is in her décolletage.
Even in households with a LOT of money and a maid, the maid doesn't do EVERYTHING and the woman tends to do whatever the maid doesn't handle.
Especially for older men who didn't get taught anything about cooking and cleaning "because manly men don't do women's work," a good woman who literally cares about them and for them physically is life giving.
My mother and other older women I've known were walking encyclopedias of their husband's health issues and the dietary restrictions and recommendations required to keep him alive. When my dad got old enough to be "old and in the way" but still was providing the lion's share of their income via two retirement checks, my mother told him sit his ass down and stay out the way and "Your job is to keep breathing."
Some people DIE within a year of their spouse dying and my suspicion is this is typically MEN deprived of their primary caregiver who are unable to properly feed themselves and keep the house adequately clean to sustain life in their old age with fragile health.
Most money is mostly made by men and even extremely successful women can and usually do marry men making more money. Janet Jackson is a multimillionaire and SHE married up and was married to a billionaire for a time.
In fact, we rag on unemployed men as not datable much less marriageable material because our completely reasonable baseline mental model is you will be having sex with this woman, so it may lead to children, and you don't need to be doing that AT ALL if you can't SUPPORT the children.
All of society pretty much agrees a penniless bum doesn't deserve sex at all and homeless men frequently can't get no love or physical affection at all from anyone for YEARS and the majority of homeless people in the US are single MEN.
I read an article years ago by a woman who explicitly married for money and the prenup specified she would get x, y and z in the divorce settlement if she stayed at least five years.
Very wealthy men frequently have prenups to protect their financial interests so some bimbo can't clean them out after a short marriage based on standard community property laws.
That's completely reasonable but it means that in a defacto married for money scenario, she's probably cutting her own throat because he can and will replace your skank ass if you get all uppity and bitchy on him.
If you want to sell your body to the highest bidder you can find, coolios. I don't care.
But you're not going to be 27 forever, women who continue to look good as they get older WORK at it, and if sex is the only thing you are bringing to the table, you are extremely easily replaced because you aren't the only skank ass ho willing to fuck him for his money and he probably knows that's why you're there. He probably didn't get rich by being a moron.
So this isn't some easy button in life where you have it made in the shade if you are willing to put out for money but don't really want to be a prostitute per se.
Some good points to this:
A. If it's a monogamous relationship, it is less likely to expose you to disease than being a prostitute.
B. If you end up pregnant, you probably don't need to fret about getting an abortion and you will have the means to raise the kid and the kid will know who their daddy is.
Some bad points:
A. Traditionally, ages eighteen to forty are "prime soldiering years" for men AND "prime child bearing years" for women.
This probably generalizes to those are prime career building years and it's most likely a primary root cause for why men have vastly more money and power than women. So looking for the easy button to life at that age is giving up important career building opportunities while you are young, healthy and energetic that will never come again.
B. In practical terms, you probably only get to marry well ONCE and pretend it's for love. Doing it repeatedly tends to get you labeled a gold digging whore AND as you get older, your looks tend to fade, your youthful innocence is gone and you become less appealing as a jaded older woman who got burned previously and now is after their money and less able to pretend that's not true.
In the US, the NFL requires football players to take classes educating them about finances because these guys are YOUNG, football careers typically are SHORT (lasting on average just 3.3 years) and these guys are making a LOT of money. For many of them, it's the most money they will ever make, meanwhile they tend to act like it's their starting salary and will only go up from here.
So the NFL decided to try to help their players be smart about it and not have a brief nonstop party followed by trying to get a job in fast food or something. They wanted to make sure their players keep some of the money and are positioned for owning a house outright or having the funds to start a business after they blow out a knee or whatever.
I've written multiple other pertinent pieces on this site and elsewhere, such as:
2. Three Ideas
If you want to marry well as your short term plan for living the good life, have at it. But try to not be an IDIOT about it and please don't imagine that a combination of youth, good looks and willingness to put out for money put you on easy street for life.
MOST women will outlive their husband EVEN if they are the same age because women tend to live longer than men. Last I checked, women outlived men by about six years and in first marriages women were on average four or four and a half years younger than their husband.
This means women typically outlive their husband by a decade or more. Second and later marriages typically involve a greater age difference.
His will may specify that his CHILDREN or his favorite charities get the lion's share of the estate. Even IF he deeply loves you and leaves every red cent to your skank ass ho self when he dies on you while you're probably under the age of forty, if you are some moron imagining you've got it made in the shade and are set for life because you're fucking a guy you probably wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole if he wasn't ROLLING in dough, inflation and lack of financial literacy means you probably still aren't set for life.
AND rest assured MEN will be happy to marry YOU for your money, run through it all and promptly dump you. My mom worked for an heiress whose husband did that shit to her and after the divorce she had to work for a living.
I want a man who's kind and understanding. Is that too much to ask of a millionaire?
Last, some rich people are well mannered, polite and smooth and some rich people are abusive monsters people only tolerate because they are rich. I hope you at least have the sense to only sell your body to the first kind and then sit down and have a conversation with him about how much fun you are having with him, but what about your future?
If he wants a skank ass ho and will put you through college or help you start a business or something, coolios. If he thinks you are supposed to flush your future down the toilet and be an air headed bimbo with zero concept that odds are high you will outlive him, maybe rethink your plans here because he basically wants slave labor and odds are high he will leave you high and dry in a few years and replace you with another skank ass 27 year old when you're an ugly over the hill 32 year old.
Because he can afford better and the judge will likely be a MAN and on HIS side because we ALL know you are essentially looking for a winning lottery ticket.
Community property laws are old and are rooted in the idea that you were a virgin on the wedding night and gave your LIFE to this man and any resulting children and his financial success is rooted in having a good marriage and good wife.
As best I can tell, that's the story behind Walmart.
Everyone knows he made that money BEFORE you're skank ass showed up and no one thinks you really deserve HALF when you divorce him and no one thinks he's obligated to leave YOU everything when he's probably got multiple children older than you from previous marriages.
If you're ONLY a bauble on his arm and a good time in bed, he and other people are generally going to be fine with paying you accordingly.
Footnote
All quotes are from Zsa Zsa Gabor