Equality

I type in Alexander in my search box and it drops down four or five suggestions -- Skarsgard, Dreymon, Hamilton, Ludwig. Not among the suggested names: Edwards.

If I type "Alexander Edwards" the top suggestion is "Alexander Edwards Cher." So he is apparently currently best known for dating Cher, a woman 40 years his senior.

He's worth $3 million according to the internet. Cher is worth $350 to $400 million. I bet she pays for their dates on top of him getting free name recognition out of it.

In spite of both being in the movie industry, they have essentially nothing in common. According to People magazine, Cher says he doesn't get most of her references. So this is not a case of them bonding over their mutual love of 1930s era films in spite of the age difference or something like that.

I got no problem with there being a big age difference in a relationship but I doubt they really have a relationship. I would not be surprised to learn that it's all for show and they are dating to get the gossip rags to gossip about them on the theory that "There's no such thing as bad publicity."

I can't find it currently but saw a blurb where Fortune described him as something like "The most famous music executive..." so associating his name with hers has apparently gotten him some name recognition because other than "He's Cher's boyfriend" I had never heard of the man and the prompts on internet suggestions indicates most people only really know him as her boyfriend.
Natalie told her those weren't really dates. It was just part of keeping up appearances for the Hollywood scene and, furthermore, most of those young men were gay.
Xiran Jay Zhao talks in some video about suspicions that ancient Chinese generals sometimes got the power they had by sleeping with the emperor. She says being gay wasn't a big sin and "you are going to hell" like in the Western world but the attitude was "You are still going to marry and give me grandkids, right?"

Nonetheless, they apparently tried to sweep it under the rug when guys were sleeping their way into power with other guys. It's okay to be gay in ancient China. Not so okay to sleep your way into power as a gay man.

It's long been tolerated, even expected, that a woman would gain influence primarily by whom she slept with, usually under the polite euphemism of marrying well. In fact, everything I have seen suggests to me it's rather challenging for a woman to make it entirely on merit and being married to the right guy can do wonders for a woman with talent and ambition in situations where otherwise doors would remain shut to her.

In some article, Cher said her much younger boyfriend "treats her like a queen." I am somewhat inclined to interpret that to mean "He's not pressuring me for sex." Meanwhile, some other article suggests he's probably never been faithful to any woman and gets around.

So I would not be shocked if it turned out this entire thing is a publicity stunt and they aren't even sleeping together. Meanwhile, he likely has some squeeze or two on the down low not showing up in publicity photos.

If Cher is in on it, coolios. If not....hate to be him if she finds out that "treats her like a queen" really means "stringing her along and playing her for a fool."

I have this pet theory that one of the reasons it's hard for women to open doors is because most people with money and power are male and so most gatekeepers are male and men know what horndogs they are. So if some male gatekeeper gives the nod to a woman, other men with power and influence probably don't trust it the way they do if it's a man he's recommending.

They probably err on the side of assuming he's sweet on her and it says very little or nothing about how talented she is. It takes more than that to get taken seriously as a woman.

What does it take? I don't know. But I think that's a major stumbling block for women who see men get recommendations and women get raised to be all sociable and so they work that angle and it often fails to get traction and they don't know why.

It's the reason Elizabeth Holmes SECRETLY lived with Sunny Balwani. He was a lot older than her. If people had known he was sleeping with her, they wouldn't have viewed his investment in her company as a vote of confidence in her work. They would have viewed it as a polite means to pay for sex with a much younger woman.

If a man gets name recognition by dating a much more famous woman and then people hire him because they "know the name" and assume that means he's really talented and then it comes out he isn't that talented, I imagine that would be a killer blow to a career, one they might never recover from. It would be a hard lesson in "No, really, fool, there actually IS such a thing as bad publicity."

Ain't equality grand? Both men and women now have access to the casting couch to open doors. Yeehaw.