Work
Years ago, I briefly had a blog called Feminist Slacking. I discontinued it and replaced it with this blog.
I don't typically call myself a feminist and I didn't feel people would understand what I was going for and I didn't feel I had a real career.
I think of feminists as women who want and have a real career like a man and aren't really thinking about how that impacts their children and society at large. I was trying to tongue in cheek invoke an image of a woman with a hard charging career knocking back a beer and talking about the personal aspects of making a serious career as a woman in a man's world.
I'm a former homemaker and full-time military wife and homeschooling mom and at some point I realized "I don't have the time to APPLY for a job, much less pursue a career." and began a long, tedious process of extracting myself from the expectation that ALL my time belonged to family without pay -- not just my husband and children, but other relatives and even friends and neighbors typically act like a homemaker has no real obligations and can just do free personal favors for everyone they know -- and figure out how to set time aside for me and my educational and career ambitions.
So this blog boils down to the personal pieces of working on myself and my life to try to establish a career after being a homemaker.
I got divorced and moved my asshole husband out of the picture but I still have a good relationship to my adult sons who continue to still live with me and unlike other men don't assume I'm supposed to cook for them and clean up after them.
So I think men and women can learn to live together without defaulting to expecting her to do the women's work, but I still haven't really figured out how you do that with a lover. I'm still working on that.
If you are a woman and you want to "have it all" -- career, husband, children -- or even just want a real career, I hope my thoughts about my life and my experiences will help you figure it out.
Having a career is an inside job. It's a choice YOU make and get up everyday and further it.
It won't magically happen because some guy does the cooking and cleaning. Career men frequently have a gal doing the women's work but that's often not really why they have a career.
Often, she latched onto him as a means to pay her bills and he puts up with it if she makes it worth his while. He would still go to work if they split up.
If you want a better life than being some man's bitch or having a career by being a man-hating spinster, you have a lot of work to do to sort out your expectations about your private life and work.
See also a post by the same name that this piece replaces as the link at the top of the landing page: Work.
18 December 2025
I don't typically call myself a feminist and I didn't feel people would understand what I was going for and I didn't feel I had a real career.
I think of feminists as women who want and have a real career like a man and aren't really thinking about how that impacts their children and society at large. I was trying to tongue in cheek invoke an image of a woman with a hard charging career knocking back a beer and talking about the personal aspects of making a serious career as a woman in a man's world.
I'm a former homemaker and full-time military wife and homeschooling mom and at some point I realized "I don't have the time to APPLY for a job, much less pursue a career." and began a long, tedious process of extracting myself from the expectation that ALL my time belonged to family without pay -- not just my husband and children, but other relatives and even friends and neighbors typically act like a homemaker has no real obligations and can just do free personal favors for everyone they know -- and figure out how to set time aside for me and my educational and career ambitions.
So this blog boils down to the personal pieces of working on myself and my life to try to establish a career after being a homemaker.
I got divorced and moved my asshole husband out of the picture but I still have a good relationship to my adult sons who continue to still live with me and unlike other men don't assume I'm supposed to cook for them and clean up after them.
So I think men and women can learn to live together without defaulting to expecting her to do the women's work, but I still haven't really figured out how you do that with a lover. I'm still working on that.
If you are a woman and you want to "have it all" -- career, husband, children -- or even just want a real career, I hope my thoughts about my life and my experiences will help you figure it out.
Having a career is an inside job. It's a choice YOU make and get up everyday and further it.
It won't magically happen because some guy does the cooking and cleaning. Career men frequently have a gal doing the women's work but that's often not really why they have a career.
Often, she latched onto him as a means to pay her bills and he puts up with it if she makes it worth his while. He would still go to work if they split up.
If you want a better life than being some man's bitch or having a career by being a man-hating spinster, you have a lot of work to do to sort out your expectations about your private life and work.
See also a post by the same name that this piece replaces as the link at the top of the landing page: Work.
18 December 2025